Tuesday, October 24, 2006
My best friend in Tennessee
Since moving a little over a year ago, I have been a little lonely. Our last home was directly across the street from my best friend. We built across the street from one another on purpose. While I totally love my new house, new neighborhood and new community, I have yet to connect. Meeting new people used to be fun, exciting and fulfilling to me. Now it is more of a pain! I know what you are thinking. Not a very good attitude to have! I'm good at being a Mom and a wife but I lack some serious skills in maintaining my friendships. It's work and right now I am at a place where I don't feel like I have energy to give to anyone else except those that I already have a foundation with. My family, a couple of girlfriends and that's it. So, I don't really try anymore. I find that I am changing a lot. I am much more content with having a few to spend time with and that's it. In a few short months I will be the mother of three children and I am quite sure that will take up pretty much all of my spare time. :)And I am okay with that. It's just sometimes I think maybe I am not okay with just knowing a few people around here.

Honestly, I am very lonely. I am not sure what is realistic anymore, all I have to go off of is what I had when I lived in my old house. The thing I had that I don't have now is a phone ringing off the hook, an inbox full of invites and a buddy to drive to the mall with or exchange recipes with. Now I have to take both kids to the OB appointments with me, hair appointments and much more. It was nice having someone to switch off with for important errands. I miss that and so much more.

The Lord knows my heart and He knows how lonely I have been. So a few months ago, he sent me a friend. I would love to tell you that she lives in my cul-de-sac, in my city or even across town but she doesn't. In fact, we have never met face to face. She came to my blog one day and commented and instantly I knew I liked this girl. I talk to her almost every single day and sometimes two and three times a day. I don't have to try hard to convince her of anything, I don't have to be anyone else but myself and I can pretty much say ANYTHING and trust that she knows my heart! It was an instant connection spiritually, emotionally, etc. But it was not a geographic connection! She lives in Tennessee, I live in Texas! We like the same things, we like to shop at the same places, we both love to cook, we both deal with similar things and we both are at very similar points in our walk with Christ and seem to be dealing with some of the same exact stuff.I have no doubt, no doubt at all that if Paula lived here, we would be the best of friends. We have decided that her little boy and my little girl would make a great couple someday and if we became family, we would see each other all the time! My husband has already told me we can go to Tennessee in the Spring and Paula has promised me she will come to Texas too! So, there is hope in sight!

I am constantly wishing Paula was here to cook with, shop with, pray with and hang out with all the time but she's not. The Lord has a plan, I have to trust that! This season I am in was always in His plan. I know that! And I am so thankful I have someone to talk to on the phone daily about silly stuff, important stuff and whatever else. Paula challenges me and makes me a better woman! This is a good kind of friend to have! If it wasn't for this silly little blogging thing, I never would have met my friend Paula!

I love you Paulie!

(Be sure and check out her blog. She is very inspiring and such a beautiful woman!)

  posted at 4:36 PM

At 2:56 PM, Blogger Paula said...


You are making my head so BIG!! That is just the sweetest thing ever said about me. Thank you so much.
Like you, I am lonely. I no longer teach, so I don't have a circle of women or friends to talk to.
So God in His divine power brought us together!:) HE IS SO GOOD! We get encouragement, a laugh, venting and just plain ole gabbing when ever needed. I love this friendship. And when we do finally get to meet.....watch out Jeremy and Chris.

At 5:32 PM, Anonymous Wendy said...

How wonderful that God has brought you together in a way you probably never would have expected. I have "met" so many wonderful women through blogging, including you. It has been great for a me as a stay at home mom to have a connection w/other moms, especially on those lonley days.

I appreciate you and your heart. Thanks for being one of these women that has challenged me and made me smile. Love ya!

At 7:16 PM, Blogger Amy said...

Can I just echo what Wendy said?! SO true SO true. I am so thankful for these wonderful friendships I have made through blogging too. You just never know what God has in store for you. Maybe one day you two WILL be neighbors?! But I do relate to what you said. I think it's part of the ageing process! Hugs to you :)

At 8:25 PM, Blogger Barb said...

I just visited Paula's site and instantly knew why you and she would connect. She's a doll.

I know what you're saying about feeling lonely, Amanda, but trust me. Sometimes embracing the peace and quiet of a non-ringing phone can be a blessing. And I've always, always been the kind of person to have just a very few close friends. I have lots of aquaintances but my few friends are who matter to me.

Sometimes less is more. You know?

I'm so excited about the new baby. Soon, soon. Sigh....

At 9:17 PM, Blogger {Karla} said...

I went through this same thing when we were in Wisconsin. Had to take the kids everywhere. Never made any close connections (though I tried).

I have 3 kids and limited time for getting out and making friends.

I'm praying the Lord will send someone in BloggityLand to "be my friend."

Blessings to you,

At 3:41 AM, Blogger Dee said...

Amanda -

God is good!!! I think it is awesome that you and Paula have built such a sweet sweet friendship. Of course, I have to say, Paula is a great girl on many fronts but the BIGGEST being that she is a University of Tennessee fan. You can't go wrong there, Amanda!! :)

Blogging has allowed me the same - meeting of many mommies who have become my friends, like you - even if not in my same town.

But I think friendships - even from a distance are so important for us women. My best 3 girlfriends live in WV (2) and TN (1) - they are people I went to high school or college with and though I still talk to all of them every day and sometimes more, our visits are few and far between because we all have children - but I love them and know that if I need them - they are there!!! Friendship is indeed a gift from the Lord!!!!

(((Hugs)))and Love ya Girl!!!

At 6:37 AM, Blogger Munchkin Land said...

That is beautiful! I love that we meet such kindred spirits via the blogosphere. I, too, have met a friend like that through my blog and I find myself thanking God for her, and women like you, every day. Most of you encourage me to grow, give great advice and support, and I just love this network of women. I'm sure you'll have a WONDERFUL time in Tennessee!

At 3:27 PM, Blogger Christy said...

Very similar to what we have been talking about deal with friendships....


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